Racism in online dating


04-Mar-2017 18:50

There’s only so much running the risk of being catfished or having to deal with douchebags like these ones that anyone can be expected to handle.

However, putting yourself out there is tough, as most women can attest to.

The guys messaging me certainly weren't thinking: ' I bet she can hold her own in a dinner party full of Tory wankers' or ' I'm sure she could teach me a thing or two about how to whip up a seafood tortellini in twenty minutes flat'.

When all you have is a face to go on and your chances of finding a one night stand / FWB or more entirely depends on whether they find you ‘hot’ or not, you wouldn’t be human if it didn’t affect your self-esteem.

It doesn’t matter that I could beat you at badminton or have a knack for sitting next to the loudest person on the bus - each and every time I’m having what I think is a great conversation with someone, it somehow always switches back to my skin colour.

It’s hard not to feel envious of my white BFFs when their conversations can progress much quicker – after all, they’re not trying to convince someone for what feels like 15 minutes straight that you’re not ‘Dubai-istani’ (yes, really...that's a thing apparently).

Although WOC are all united in experiencing highly sexual and racially charged interactions at one point, that’s not to say all their experiences are in any way identical.



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